I wet to dinner at Chili’s tonight, and in addition to dinner, I got a show to go along with it. Talk about your mealtime value!
The waitress came around, took my order, and shortly thereafter, I had food. I hadn’t been eating more than five minutes, when a guy walks over and sits down at the table across the aisle from me. The guy looked jittery, which was making me a little nervous (the soup spoon shifted to my left hand, just in case). A couple of awkward minutes pass, him shaking a bit and me… well.. watching him out of the corner of my eye cautiously, when my waitress comes back, and he was suddenly on his feet, catching her attention.
“Uh, hi, you might not remember me, but you waited on my table the other day…”
“Uh-huh…” she said, politely.
“I just wanted to tell you that you did an excellent job yesterday, you were great…”
“Why thank you!”
He came all the way out here, shaking like a leaf in the wind, to tell her what a great job she’s doing? I don’t buy it.
“…This is going to sound weird, but…” Oh boy, here it comes… “I was wondering if I might take you to dinner sometime?”
Admittedly, I had to stifle a laugh at this point. He saw a pretty waitress and decided to come back and ask her to dinner. How… well.. shallow!
“Oh, that’s really sweet, but…” The rest of the sentence was drowned out by some loud person behind me, but the point was clear from the body language. Defeated, he walked away, shot down like a lousy pilot.
I mulled the incident over during the rest of my dinner. I couldn’t really piece together what would drive a man (or boy, in this case, he had to be a teenager) to go back to a restaurant and ask the waitress, who he doesn’t know from Eve, out to dinner? It’s certainly not something I’d be inclined to do, if I needed a date for an event or something that badly, I’d just as soon see if one of my female friends would be willing to put up with me for an evening.
I think it boils down to one simple fact: It’s how Hollywood tells us love and romance should be. Guy walks into a restaurant, meets waitress, asks waitress to dinner, waitress accepts, they go out, and by the end of the movie, they’re married, living happily ever after. Love is effortless, you just glide into it with that special someone and everything is perfect.
I don’t speak from the perspective of a married man, but I have some relationship experience, and there’s one thing I’ve observed: Love is work. Sure, there will be those moments that things are effortless, but there will also be the trials. I think we expect that once we find someone special, there’s never going to be any work involved. We want our happy endings, we want the credits to roll and have everything resolved. I think that’s why divorce has become so rampant in America today. People get married with the delusion that they’re going to get their happy ending, when in fact, they don’t. Then people become discontented with what they wound up with. They feel cheated out of their happy ending and decide to go off and try to find it somewhere else, and the cycle repeats itself.
I think Americans really should stop looking to hollywood to tell them how love should be
Tags: Writing by Andrew Laine
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